Thursday, October 22, 2009

Is Sex Love?

My friend Desmond told me that his boy friend is so possessive that he doesn't want Desmond to maintain a close friendship with other guys.Desmond also told me that his boy friend loves him so much and he is happy about it.

I asked Desmond,"Do you really think that he loves you?". Desmond said,"i am proud of his love for me".

I said,"If he really loves you, then why couldn't he stand seeing yourself happy with your friends?". Desmond blinked at me. I said,"Your boy friend doesn't trust you. He actually feels insecure and jealous of you" Desmond looked at me angrily.



I said,"If he really loves you, then why wouldn't he let you have close friends? He is jealous of your happiness. He just couldn't stand seeing yourself happy with other guys. He couldn't stand seeing you laughing with your friends. He couldn't stand seeing you spending time with your friends. It is not love. It is jealousy. He wants you to be happy only with him. He wants you to spend time only with him.Now tell me, is this what you call as 'Love'?"

Desmond thought that i was right and he wanted to discuss this with his boyfriend.

Hey guys, do you think that i have poisoned his mind? Do you think that i was wrong?

Everyone of us have different opinions on different issues. I invite you guys to share your thought about this.

My friend Jayan told me that he would let his girl friend to sleep with other guys, but would want her to return back to him at the end of the day to be in his arms. Does that mean Jayan doesn't love his girl friend?

A married couple doesn't mind swapping their partners for a day or two with their best friends.Is it because they do not love each other?

One of my friend's wife knows that her husband is sleeping with other woman and she is okay with him as long as he care for her and for the family. Should we say that she doesn't love her husband?

My friend Johnson get a call from his wife every half an hour to ask him his whereabouts and whatever he is doing. And every time Johnson tell lies to her saying that he is held up at work. He doesn't want to hurt his wife by saying that he was visiting one of his female friend. Do you think that his wife loves him?




One of my female friend knew that her husband has an extra marital affair and she just couldn't stand this. This friend of mine is so fat that her husband doesn't enjoy sleeping with her. She knew that, that is the reason for him to stray. But she wouldn't let him spend his time in peace. What is the feeling that she has for her husband?. Love? Jealousy? Possessiveness? Insecurity?

Would you hate your baby if the baby laughs and feels happy in your neighbour's arms? Won't you let your child to play with their best friends? Won't you let your best friends to spend time with your other friends? Would you refuse to love your child, when the child says that he wants to be left alone for few days? Is the love that you have for your partner is different from the love you have for your siblings and parents?

We have always been told that true love is to have one partner for life. This has many reasons behind. If one partner for life is maintained, then there wouldn't be the problem of time sharing, commitment and other health related issues. But how would you prove your true love for someone? Being possessive?

Can "Sex" be related to "Love"? Can you measure somebody's love with "Sex"? If you find your partner seeing somebody regularly, would you mind it? If yes, then why?

Is it because you don't want your partner to have another person in his/ her arms? Is it because you don't want your partner to be cheered up by another person? Don't you want your partner to get something that he is missing from your existing relationship with him? Would you argue that your partner has to bear you for all your shortcomings in the name of "LOVE"?. Would you expect your partner to sacrifice the special feelings and urges,in the name of "LOVE"?.

Why should everybody think that having sex outside of marriage or outside of the so called RELATIONSHIP, is not acceptable?

Can anybody, who has a valid and meaningful answer can enlighten me on this please?



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Thursday, September 17, 2009

I Have A Crush On You

Hey handsome, hope you are doing well. Do you remember our last meeting? You were sitting next to me and sharing your dreams with me. I was listening to you calmly. You,later wondered whether i fell asleep with my eyes wide open. lol.



I was admiring your calmness and the hope you have in your life, after the serious mishap, as well as a breakup you had with your girl friend. I was admiring the dreams in your eyes and hope in your words, while you were building your dream castle, sitting next to me relaxingly. I was admiring the batting of your eyelids while you were sharing your dreams with me. I was admiring the movements of your hands weaving your dream castle on the air. I was admiring the fast and eager movements of your dreamy eyes when you were explaining the arrangement of things all over your dream home. I was admiring your square shoulders trying to reach out to the trees in your dream garden. I was admiring your fingers and the neatly cut nails while you were attending the call that intruded in your dreamy interlude.



I was holding myself from touching your hairy forearms and playing with the hairs. I was holding myself from feeling your lips, that were struggling to stay together while you were sharing your dreams with me. I was admiring your gym toned strong thighs that was resting on the chair and your leg that was stretched out on a stool. I was holding myself from reaching out to your thighs and resting my head on it. I was holding myself from leaning on those strong shoulders. I was holding myself from taking your fingers and admiring your rosy nails. I was holding myself from reaching out to your hands and taking the wide palms to my cheeks. I held my breath when i saw the hairs on your chest while you bent down to pick up the bike's key that you dropped. My heart skipped a beat and i forgot to take the air into my lungs when you came near to me, to pick up your helmet from the next seat of mine. My eyes didn't blink while i watched you walking towards your bike after bidding bye to me. I was holding myself from running behind you and hugging your rectangular shaped upper body. Your smell still lingers around me and in my thoughts.

I know that i am going to have long nights. And its definitely going to take many nights to get back my lost peace as well as my sleep.


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Wednesday, September 9, 2009

Why Do Men And Women Stray?

I was 14years old when i heard that one of my Uncle was seeing another woman, while my aunt was away in her college, doing her final year Bachelor Degree in Medicine & Surgery. I thought that my Uncle has committed a sin. And I even thought that my Aunt will not let him to stay with her if she comes to know about his illicit affair. Later, i learnt that my Aunt has accepted his act of adultery terming it as "social menace". Few years later,while i was 18years old, i came to know that my Aunt was attracted towards her colleagues at work.And this time i was matured enough, to accept this act of infidelity as "normal" and not "social menace".

I think Men and Women stray for many reasons.

The first and foremost is the unfulfilled physical needs. I guess Men look at that part of the relationship as the foremost thing in their partners. Is there anybody who can refute this claim?


You can't, because men are made so. Purely because of the amount of testosterone, the sex harmone,in their body. Women have a much smaller amount of testosterone in their bodies compared to men. So, this is something to do with Science, over which no one has control. I remember that i read somewhere Men has ten times more than the testosterone of women. That explains why we find more straying men than women. And last comes the financial and emotional support.

And I guess women stray, firstly, due to the lack of emotional and financial support from their spouses. Lastly, to compensate for the sexual inadequacies in their existing relationship.

I invite you guys to share your thoughts about Straying Men & Women.

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Saturday, September 5, 2009

Is Commitment Love?

When my friend said that he is committed to his wife,i asked him the meaning of his sentence. He said that he cant accommodate anybody else in his life other than his wife.

I said, "Do you mean to say that you can't love anybody else other than your wife?". He was quiet for a long time. I even forgot the question that i put to him half an hour earlier.


He asked me, "Why are you confusing Love with Commitment?". I looked at him questioningly. He said, "Love and Commitment are different. It is not necessary that I should love the person whom I am committed to". I was even more puzzled.

He said, "Commitment is fulfilling my responsibilities irrespective of the love I have for them. Loving is that 'extra touch', that i give them when they are in need of me."


I said," It is NOT possible. You cant do justice to LOVE and COMMITMENT by that way. You might get a call from the LOVE as well as COMMITMENT, at the same time. Which one would you choose?. You could only be with either your LOVE or COMMITMENT. So, COMMITMENT will win and LOVE will have to sacrifice. Don't you agree with me?"

I hope you guys will agree with me.

Have a rocking weekend either with your LOVE or COMMITMENT. :)


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Tuesday, August 11, 2009

May Her Soul Rest In Peace

I suddenly remembered this beautiful actress. She has shown her acting prowess in many popular films. Few of them are "Pakeezah", "Sahib Bibi Aur Ghulam", "Baiju Bawra" etc. There was also another actress for whom i cried for, when i heard the news that her body was found 2 days after her death in her flat. She was living alone.Some of the most memorable films of her were "Arth", "Lamhe".

Both the women should have been blessed with good souls to take everyone under their wings when they were approached. Whether they benefited from their relationships or not, can be answered only by the people who were associated with them.

Woh sab ki ti, uske liye koi nahi ta – This was the last sentence of a program, which was about one of this yesteryear actresses. The presenter who was presenting this program for the listeners, played great songs and narrated the good as well as bad moments of this beautiful actress’s life. This program was broadcast by the national radio station in 1992.

I was too young to understand the last sentence of the program. How could a woman be available to everyone and then find herself all alone at the fag end of her life?

The word “AVAILABLE” has many meanings, I guess. A woman could have been available to someone who were in need of a mother. A woman could have also been available to someone who were in need of a sister. A woman could have been available to someone who were in need of a daughter. She could have also been available to few who were in need of a Girl Friend. She could have also been available to few who were in need of a wife.

I guess everybody played their own part when they got her by their side. If that’s the case then why was she left alone when she badly needed a person by her side? There wasn't a brother, a father, a son, a husband and a lover by her side to tend to her. Does that mean that the father, brother, husband and the lover didn’t need her anymore? Or did they find the woman unfit to be enacted in any of her roles in her real life? Was she so bad that no character liked this woman in the play of life?

I am puzzled and worried. Life is too complicated to all the persons who choose to lead a life of liberation. What could be the reason behind this sorry state of affairs? Is the society not matured enough to understand and support them? Does the society feel that they are a nuisance to their community? Or is it afraid of the younger generation going wayward, if they support them, though they secretly do?

I guess their souls are not resting in peace. And it is wandering to find out the truth. All i pray to almighty is "MAY THEIR SOUL REST IN PEACE".


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One Of My Wishlist Fulfilled

Yup, it was fulfilled last weekend. Thanks goes to Sridhar, my friend, who took me for a real looooooooong ride on a weekend. The traffic was almost nill as we were crossing the IT park beyond shollinganallur. So it was a fast ride. And i enjoyed tucking myself between the fast wind and my friend.I closed my eyes and felt the cool wind on my face, in that dark night.I wanted to leave both my hands free, stretch them to my sides and feel like flying. But i wasn't able to do it. Because i chose the wrong dress for the ride. I should have chosen a pant and a shirt for this long ride. I wore a salwar kameez and a dupatta, which needed my attention now and then, playing a spoil sport.

Only when we thought that we can raise the speed, we suddenly felt that the road was missing and it was so dark that we were not able to see anything ahead.We were thrilled and confused for few seconds searching for the missing road.:) We realised that there was a sharp turn. We took the turn and found ourself on a bridge. And the water was flowing under the bridge.We both don't know to swim.

It started raining after a while. This is what i was looking for. A jolly ride in the rain, in a cool night! Who wouldn' enjoy it?. My friend was also enjoying the drizzle with me. The feel of cool water running down my body and the feel of cool wind brushing the wet body was wonderful.

Thank you Sridhar.

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Friday, August 7, 2009

Bihar and the Swayamvar - Maa Tujhe Salam

Bihar faces this flood situation every year. People face hardships due to this flood. And i find that neither the people are strong enough to ask questions to our national leaders about the pathetic condition of the state nor the so called voter's choices are making any meaningful effort to avoid this type of situation in future.



Tue, Aug 4 09:43 AM
I have reproduced the following from the yahoo news link:http://in.news.yahoo.com/43/20090804/914/ten-rakhi-sawant-says-she-won-t-invite-m.html

'I was all set to marry Elesh on Sunday. But it was Elesh who said he wanted more time to get to know me. I'm very confident of him. But if he needs more time to get to know me, how can I force myself on him? I'm ready to wait as long as he wants,' said Rakhi.

I am sure the people who are here in this photos are not watching this tamasha on TV. If they had watched the show, then they would have cursed the bride and the bridegroom, instead of blessing them.



Jai Hind. Hamara Bharat Mahan. Maa Tujhe Salam.






Though i didn't view a single episode of this TV Swayamvar - choosing a life partner from the contestants. It does sounds exciting as well as weird.

Interestingly Elesh has asked for more time to get to know Rakhi. I appreciate his intelligent move of asking for more time to get to know her. What would happen if Elesh finds Rakhi,not suitable for him after a certain point of time? What would she do, if he wants to conduct another Swayamvar, asking Rakhi to join his girl friend contestants? We shall get to know a person only if we spend every moment with him or her ,at home as well as outside with our friends.

Men and Women who has settled for love marriage after knowing their partners for many years are a divorced lot now. Men and Women who has listened to their parents' and married their parent's choices are not happy too. Now Rakhi and Elesh would be a laughing stock if they are going to get separated legally or not. Who has gained from this tamasha? The T.V. channel? Rakhi? Elesh? What has the viewers gained?

What are we doing to the future generation? Are we making a better place for them? Are we setting a good trend to live life peacefully and meaningfully? Where is the nation heading on to? I don't know whether the people who has lost their home, assets and family members in Bihar floods viewed this Tamasha. How much has the sponsors and the TV Channel spent on Rakhi as well as on this show? Who has benefited from this show? The nation? The people who are suffering without food in Bihar floods? CRY? Any other charity organization?


I have reproduced this new from the yahoo link : http://in.biz.yahoo.com/090806/50/bau0bj.html:
Friday August 7, 11:16 AM
"First-quarter job losses touch 1.71 lakh"

Unemployment estimates for the first quarter of the financial year show a total of 1.71 lakh job losses, and the spectre loomed over most sectors, according to a study by the Labour Bureau. Buttressing this is data that shows withdrawal requests from the Employees' Provident Fund Organisation (EPFO) between April and June touching a record 31.51 lakh, indicating large-scale layoffs as well as a severe cash crunch among workers.

Are we worried about this?

Can anybody enlighten me on this please? I am disturbed by the way things are being taken and conducted.

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Thursday, August 6, 2009

Have i gone insane or the people around me?

26/12/08:

Yesterday night while I was walking to the bus stop from work, I came across people who were talking to themselves. That really worried me.

There was this man, who was talking about the nature, wind and eyes. I heard him saying that he could see the whole world through his eyes. And he was thanking god that he could see the nature through his eyes. He was keeping on repeating this. I just turned back to see the person. He was sitting alone and was talking to himself loudly. One of the his eye was bandaged. And only then I realized that he was just venting his feelings out. He should have experienced more pain in his heart about the lose of vision in one of his eye. He stood up after few minutes, faced the small crowd which was scattered there in the bus stop, it was almost 10pm, and asked them “Why do you cry when you watch sad scenes in a movie?” Everyone was just watching him. Perhaps everyone was tired at the end of the day after their work. Or there was not a single young soul who could respond to this battered soul.

My bus reached my bus stop and I got into the bus. Fortunately I got a seat to sit. I heard a woman, who was sitting behind me, scolding a man. She was murmuring dirty words. The woman didn’t stop scolding him even after 10minutes. I turned to see whether she was talking to someone over mobile phone. She wasn’t holding one. She turned her head towards the window and was talking to herself angrily. She was a middle aged woman, very disturbed inside. She was looking very normal outside, just like the man in the bus stop.

I feel the whole world is turning insane. Everyone is feeling lonely. I guess, not everyone find someone to confide in, without fearing that it could catapult on them. That shows that everyone of us have stopped trusting anyone. Is it because we are more self centered, selfish?. Are we so engrossed with our own life, that we don't find time to lend our shoulder to our near and dear ones and leave them talk to themselves or talk to the strange crowd at late night?

Gone are those days, when ppl go to temple, sit calmly, close their eyes and pour all their feelings there and return home with lighter heart. Now we don’t have faith in anything. Not even God. Do we?

I have reproduced it from my old file. There is no difference in the world i look today, August 6,2009.

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Monday, July 20, 2009

Removed the blog on my friends' suggestion

Shankar is a friend of mine with whom i used to hang out on weekends. He called me few minutes back and suggested me to remove the blog "Money Does Matters To Cops 1 & 2" stating that i am entering into danger zones. And that i do not have any evidence to prove that they demanded money. Only a fool would accept that he is a thief and he would commit a burglary in front of the camera. I am giving you an extract of our chat in yahoo messenger.
sankar: money does matter to cops type this in google
sankar: and see it to yourself
Uma: let it come
Uma: i don mind
Uma: every single citizen in india knows this
Uma: i didn't write/ reveal any secret
Uma: did i?
sankar: you are entering a dangerous zone
sankar: making an allegation for which u dont have single
sankar: proof to say
sankar: you can be booked under cpc
sankar: mind it... u donna their powers
sankar: on corruption
sankar: especially allegation against them
Uma: okay
Uma: but i am not going to remove
sankar: ok.... god bless you..
Uma: let me face this for every single citizen who is harassed

The other friend Nanda, who is working with an IT company, lives in Bangalore. He suggested me to remove the status in my yahoo messenger chat id. The status was the same which i had in Myspace, Hi5,Twitter,Google chat. And the status was "Looks like am going to bribe the cop today to get my license renewed". Here is the extract of our chat:
nanda : Bribing is a crime.......and advertising or publicizing this........might attract unwanted and unfavorable attention
Uma : let it be
Uma: am frustrated
Uma : and intimidated
nanda : frustrated and intimidated
nanda : hey common....you are in india
nanda : even judges these days are intimidated by ministers
Uma : very good
Uma : let us not praise the nation
Uma : then
nanda : oh thats your opinion my dear
nanda: better pay....500..... think its beer money
nanda: or you had a cocktail at le meridien
nanda: see pisase....me have been on the right side of law and procedures for so many years....hence not made my millions yet
nanda: if you are stuck......first start swimming....
nanda: once you find dry land....then u can take them to task
Uma: this is the first time am facing this kinda situation
nanda: lol..........mom served as a senior gazetted official for 27 years....
nanda: but was asked bribed to get her retirement papers
nanda: after i paid the man... i told him... we were from the media and the conversation is recorded
nanda: any day you are happy me will have the authorities swoop down on you.....
nanda: he must think and live in fear atleast some days in his life
nanda: read somewhere.......TALENT IS SOMETHING BUT
nanda: TACT IS EVERYTHING
Uma: jus wanted you to agree that the system is not so green
nanda: be safe and take care

There is another friend Ravi, who lives in Bangalore. He has a story to say about the builder who has bribed the authorities, to not to take the case of Ravi. Ravi lost his Dadinlaw in an elevator accident. That was his new house. Dadinlaw was there for the first time to visit the new house. The elevator door opened when there was no cabin in the floor. Poor old man stepped inside and fell down from the fourth floor. He was pronounced dead when he was taken to the hospital. And to remind you, that was a newly constructed building and the Elevator was a new one. That was a working day. Both Ravi and Mrs. Ravi were at work. Ravi's mominlaw was at her house. The family has lost a member and now they are made to run from pillar to post to get justice.

Ravi also suggested me to remove the Blog post saying that this might delay the process of issuing the license.This would hinder my business too.

A friend, James, also suggested me to remove the blog saying that i am living in India and not in the other part of the earth.

Hence i have decided to remove the two blog posts. But i just want to say that they are not friends of people, as they project themselves.


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Saturday, July 11, 2009

Hugging and Kissing Is Banned

I was also surprised when my niece, Shruti, a four and half year old, told me that hugging and kissing is banned at home. She revealed this to me when she was at my home last weekend. That was a sunny Sunday afternoon. So we stayed indoors and was having fun playing with my niece. Once i called her near me. She came near me and was staring at my eyes. I said, "Give me a hug darling". She came near and hugged me reluctantly. My sister was watching this. Shruti said,"Hugging and kissing is banned at home. So don't hug and kiss me". I looked at my sister questioningly. She said,"Yes i have told my daughter to not to allow anybody, at school or at any place, to hug and kiss her". My sister has even advised her husband to not to hug and kiss Shruti.

Hugging gives us all the wanted solace, when we are down. Hugging gives us all the courage, when we doubt our own capabilities. Hugging gives us a feel of security when we feel insecure. We hug someone to show that we care for them. Last weekend I was watching the movie "Seven Years In Tibet". This movie is based on the book written by Heinrich Harrer, his experiences in Tibet, during Second World War (between 1944 and 1951). I felt pity for the child Dalai Lama. He was living away from his family and doesn't lead a life of an ordinary child. Brad Pitt, who is playing Heinrich Harrer in the movie becomes a tutor of the Dalai Lama and get chances to be with the child Dalai Lama even in the odd hours. The child Dalai Lama was emotionally down and Heinrich Harrer gives him a gentle hug and that is when the child Dalai Lama breaks down to shed a few tears. I could feel the solace the child Dalai Lama would have received from that simple hug.

Where are we heading- If a simple hug is banned at home, and deprive the children and the future generation, of their way of showing their love for each other? What is the reason for banning a simple hug and a peck? Is our society so unsafe? Are we surrounded by dangerous species in the guise of men? My answer is "YES" for the last two questions. Have we ever read about child molestation by woman of any society? Have we ever read about children being raped, operated and dumped at their backyard, by a woman or women? Are we not living in a civilized world? Are we living in a JUNGLE called EARTH? Who is responsible for this state of affairs? Should we point our fingers at us?

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Thursday, July 2, 2009

Victory For Gays, Am Proud Of My Friends

The Delhi High Court today decriminalized Homosexuality. This is good for the entire Gay community in India but bad for the cops who were harassing the community in the name of law.

There was an incidence that happened last year, which made me furious. A gay friend of mine was lured into homosexual act by a man near the Marina Beach in Chennai, one night. This man later identified himself as a policeman by showing his id card, on the same night, after the act. He then blackmailed my friend saying that he would arrest him for his act.Later, the policeman started harassing him now and then. And my friend used to give money to the policeman to either keep his mouth shut or to avoid problems at home. This is just one incident. And there are lot more that are swept under the cover.

I am glad that human rights is restored by striking the IPC 377. Every human being has the right to lead his/ her life in his/ her own way, as long as it doesn't affect a fellow human being. Am going to celebrate this victory with my gay and trans gender friends this weekend. What about you?

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Friday, June 26, 2009

Miss you Mic :-(


"Though you are far apart, You are always in my heart"

I am going to miss you for ever Mic. Music world has lost a brilliant singer, great dancer and the KING OF POP . I am very sad because you left me, when i wanted you to perform in London this month.I am broken because you didn't give me another chance to hear your voice and witness your dance. I am disappointed because you didn't prove your critics wrong. No one else can fill this void. No one else can.

I love you Mic, always.


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Saturday, June 6, 2009

Take Me There Please, Will You?

Two days back, David Yang, my friend, asked me what would i wish him to bring me from China. I told him to bring me the replica of "Great Wall of China". Mano, who was coming for a vacation from Egypt, asked me my wish. Guess what? I asked for the Pyramid. Sankar, my friend, asked me what would be my wish list. There are many, many friends who have wondered whether i really have a wish list. Do i look so lifeless? Come on guys, here is my wish list. Let us have fun.

I thought i can just post my wish list here. So that, every friend of mine, can grant my wish, whenever they could. :)

Here it goes:

There is a blue misty place in the sky where there is no trace of living beings except you and me. Imagine the solitary silence and the sound of our breathe. How romantic! Will you take me there?

Take me to the top of the mountain where the water falls originate from. I want to see where does water come from.Did you say that snow melts into water? Then where does Snow originate from? Take me there please. Will you?

Take me to a cave where water drips every moment and leaves a smooth bed of pebbles immersed in water. I want to lie there and feel the cold and smooth stones.Lets enjoy the darkness and the loneliness. Shall we?

I want you to take me, right now, to our dream land. Do you remember the dream that we both had? We walked into the falls and then into a cave. We found a pool right in the middle of the land. The surrounding was neat and calm except the sound of the breeze that came from the bamboo trees. The sound still echos in my mind. The sound that hummed like a mild drum beats.I want to hear the sound again. Take me there please.

Wow, that was a pleasant experience. The evening when you dropped me back home from the beach. Do you remember that? It was raining heavily. And you had to drop me back home soon and get back to work. We didn't have the time to wait for the rain to stop. We both enjoy traveling in the rain and so we decided to keep going. We enjoyed the cold wind as well as the cool rain water running from head to toes.The visibility on the road was poor. Do you remember that we were taken by surprise, when we almost bumped into a bus which was going ahead? That was an exciting ride. I want to go for the ride again. Shall we?

Wish list is not going to end here. But the time demands me to end it now and get back to work. So guys, stay tuned to read more on my wishes, if you really want to know me better.

Wish you all a happy week ahead.

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Wednesday, June 3, 2009

Mental Model

This man comes to our house once in every two days. He stands in front of our closed gate. He stands there without making any noise until my mom comes out of our house to place some hot food on his odd shaped plate. Mom does this to every person who comes asking for alms. She don't ever offer cold food to anybody. She is very popular, as a person who offers hot food to whoever comes hungry at our door.I have seen the sweepers, rag pickers, watchmen etc asking for food when they find my mom at the front gate.

Sure, the sight of him standing there wearing the same dirty clothes covering his thin body, dry and unruly hairs, irritated me.He used to come to our home everyday morning and stood there without calling anyone for alms. Only when any of the family member came out to run some errands, do we notice him standing there.He kept standing there for hours together without making any noise. Mom used to give him food everyday morning. We thought that he was deaf and dumb. I once saw him feeding the stray dogs on the street from his plate. I told my mom about this. She said that somebody would have offered him stale food.

House maid has told my mom that she saw him talking to the people in the nearby bus stop. Mom was angry. She thought that this man was ashamed of asking for alms. The next day mom turned him empty handed. She also scolded him for his attitude. We didn't see the man for months together. He appeared suddenly one day morning and was waiting in the front gate. He looked paler than he was earlier. Mom took pity on him and gave him some food. He said, "Mai, do putra hai mera. par ek bhi mujhe dhek bal nahi karta" ("Mom, i have two sons. But no one takes care of me") and started crying. I was moved by his tears. Looking at an old man who sounded helpless at the fag end of his life made me feel very sad.

We then realised that he speaks in different language. And he wouldn't have understood whatever mom has told him the other day. Because we speak Tamil in Tamilnadu, South India and this old man is from North India.He would have made out from my mom's angry face, that she didn't want to give him food anymore. And avoided coming to our home all these months.

Now, whenever he appear in our front gate, we feel pity for him.I don't get angry any more, when i see this man, standing in front of the closed gate.

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Wednesday, May 27, 2009

I Wanna Hug You

"Hey, I need a tight hug from you"

I know this sounds familiar to my friends. Because i ask them to hug me whenever i feel low and let down. Do you wonder what difference does it make? Come to me, when you feel low. I will show you the difference.

Arms would wrap around you, hold you tight. You would be let to rest your head on my shoulder. You would forget all the worries. You would just feel secured. Stay there for just five minutes, closing your eyes and feeling the warmth of my friendship. You would gain the confidence back and will get the strength to take the world again.

I love working with people and being in touch with them. I love building relationships, which would be mutually beneficial.

I hope every acquaintance of mine know my workplace. I came across this new project, which was very interesting to me. It was my kind. And it was about spreading love by hugging 10 people in return, when you get a hug from one person.I didn't get a chance to work with these nice people. I was so impressed with this video, that i have added this in my Orkut community "Love, Loyalty and Commitment"

I am sure, you too, would love this video. I am dreaming of a world, where everyone would love every other person,where there would be no hatred, no selfishness, no cruelty. May God bless us with a peaceful life.


Hugs to you all :)

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Tuesday, May 26, 2009

Looking Good is Feeling Good

Everyone of us would love to look good. Everybody would love to look at the mirror and say "Wow! You are looking good baby".

Do you always think about choosing the dresses that show your curves and hide the bulge? I understand how hard would that be to choose a dress that conceal the tummy. Because i have gone through it.

But not any more. Want to know the reason? I work out regularly to enjoy the shopping and gain compliments from my friends as well as family. Not everyone of us find time to go to gym. But we could still spend some time for ourselves every morning. Start spending just 30mnts. Start walking around the streets. A brisk walk for 30minutes on day 1, would leave you with lot of sweat and heavy breathing. But you would feel refreshed the whole day until you hit the bed. Just give it a try tomorrow morning. Put your shoes and start walking.

You would tend to sleep the next day morning thinking that you can go to walk the next day. Resist that temptation to sleep. Wake up and go for a walk again for 30minutes on day2. Continue for 21days without taking a break for a day. You would feel pepped up with a whole new experience of gaining lot of energy.

Breathing fresh air in the morning will do good for your health and mind. Looking at the fellow men walking, jogging and playing would give you lot of enthusiasm. You would find yourself walking for almost an hour on day21. I bet you would see the change in your body too. I can assure you that walking early in the morning, would become a habit. Now its time to Jog on day22. Jogging is running slowly.You don't have to run like a runner, who is going to win the 100mts race. Running slowly everyday for almost 45minutes would help to reduce the fat easily.

Get a pair of jogging shoes, a loose shirt and a loose shorts. Choose the dresses that absorb the sweat. So that, you don't feel the dresses sticking to your body and leaving you with sense of discomfort. Choose a path which is flat. Avoid Tar roads. Avoid paths with too many curves. Avoid roads with more traffic. Avoid paths which is frequented by walkers. They wont let you jog peacefully. They annoy me sometimes by taking the entire width of the street to their possession.

Breathing heavily, sweating profusely, envious stares - relish the moments. And find yourself with full of energy and lot of confidence in yourselves.



I jog too, everyday morning at 6am near the football ground. See you all there. Happy Jogging friends. Lets look GOOD and feel GOOD of ourselves.


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Phil, I Miss You


Hey Philip, do you remember my last Birthday? I still remember the evening of September 20,2008. You and Teja gave me a surprise. I was so happy seeing you guys walking inside my Cafe, with a cake and the lighted candles over the cake.

You made me to sit on your lap. You played my Daddy. Brian joined the Birthday Bash. Kamesh joined later. Do you remember that Mithun was also there?


You guys sang the Birthday Song, danced, played with the cake, did the hairdo for me. You were playing the hairstylist as well as the Makeup Man.

Teja wanted to do the MakeUp to you.





Mithun didn't expect you guys to throw a party that day. He was stunned to look at me dancing, singing and playing with you guys. Did i tell you the comment he passed the next day to Pradeep? Mithun said, that i was ready for everything with that young crowd.LOL. Am i not an youngster?



The last and the tenth kick you gave me was really fun. LOL. It did make me to loose my balance.



I am so happy to have got you guys as my friends.


Phil, do you remember the ride, back from the beach to my home, in your bike? We were trying to use the self service, for the first time, in the gas station. Guys, who came there to fill gas, said that we both looked like South Africans.LOL.You made me to enjoy each and every moment of that day.Thank you very much for being my friend.

I am sad that we, friends, didn't find time to spend together after the second party you threw in Bike n Barrel the weekend after my Birthday.




But you don't find much time for me now. I understand that you would be busy during the night with your work and would be taking rest during day time. But i do miss you and the time we spent together. I miss you my friend.

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I Love My Body

My day ends at 12.00 every night. But i do make it a point to get up at 5.15am every alternate day to jog for minimum 45minutes and then do the stretching exercises with a bit of yoga. And i never forget to look at the mirror every night, after my bath, to make a note of the reduction in the extra muscles that were there in the hip. I also make it a point to feel my smooth and shapely legs, much to the envy of my younger sister, who has grown fat after the birth of her first child, my niece, Shruti.I try to spend an hour every weekend to do manicure and pedicure. That way i can polish my nails to hide the cuts in the toe nails. LOL. I spend an hour every 15days to colour my hair. Do you think that i colour my hair to hide the grey hairs? You are right.LOL.

Flattered when my friend, Ram, asked me, "Uma, Are you a student?", when we first met. I said,"excuse me". He said,"In which college are you studying?". I was very happy, jumping from ground to sky in my thoughts. Philip, my friend who was sitting next to Ram, couldn't help laughing out loud making faces at me. And i was stunned when a customer said,"Uma, you are just 30year old. You should be a 42year old to understand the pain in my knees". Felt proud,when one of the guy, who was walking in the street, said "wow", when i opened the front gate of my home to go out to jog. And a friend whom i met after many years told me, "Years passes and we people grow older. Years passes, but you keep growing younger. What is the secret?".Guys who were after me, 6years back, are still after me. I could see my friends smiling at this sentence. Guys, wont you agree with me?. Love you all because i know that you guys love me too.

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Monday, May 25, 2009

I Love You

Just can't stop loving those moments.

The moments that we spent together on the beach. The moments that we spent walking hand in hand along the shore, talking sweet nothings. The moments that we ran for a cover when it started raining and found ourselves fully drenched when we reached the bus stop near the road. But we still squeezed ourselves inside the crowd to stand near to each other to feel our warmth. The moments that we giggled for no reasons, when the wind blew to make us feel more cold. Do you remember that we were painting the town red walking in a single umbrella when it was raining cats and dogs? Do you remember the moments that we lied on the sands of the beach in the night, watching the stars and the moon? Do you remember the moments that we were marveling at the sight of the reflection of the moon in the waves and discussing about mercury on water? Do you remember the moments that we spent sitting on the beach on a sunny day holding an umbrella to protect us from the sunlight? Sounds crazy now :). Do you remember the private moments that we spent on an escalator? Oh yes, i do remember that first kiss that you gave me. We were left alone inside the lift and you stole the chance to hug me and kiss me on my cheeks and said that you love me. Do you remember the nights that you used to hold me from boarding the bus until i run to catch my last bus to home? Though we are not in touch now, i just cant stop loving those moments that we spent together. I Love You.

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Uma

Saturday, May 16, 2009

Loneliness :(

Suddenly I feel like an orphan. I find myself watching the people laughing and playing with all merriness with their family and friends. I go and sit quietly between my mom and my sister, yet i don't have a sense of belonging. Suddenly I feel that I belong to no one.I feel that I am left out from the biggest crowd that I have been thinking, are my friends. Suddenly I feel that everybody has somebody or other. I have no one to turn to, nor call upon. Suddenly I discover that the persons whom I thought, as my near and dear ones, has gone far away from me, to a point of no return. Suddenly I find myself sitting alone, not picking up any calls and crying quietly for no reasons. Places which were very familiar look strange. People with whom I was comfortable with look like strangers. Is it what I call as a feeling of Loneliness?

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Thursday, April 30, 2009

A Freelancer's Feedback

Are you looking for a trustworthy, sincere freelancer,who can help you complete your work sooner than you anticipated? The time difference between the places across the globe and the amazing internet technology help us to complete one's work overnight, which would normally take a day's time.

Please do write to me, if you are in need of a freelancer.

And am sure, the feedback that i received from my former clients speaks for the quality of my service.

Project Name:Online Research

Client's Name: Karen Waksman

Job: To search for the events within 50 miles of San Francisco, California and put the following details in a excel file.

1) Title of Event
2) Quick description of event
3) website link
4) Date of event
5) Cost of event
6) Contact info for event

Feedback that i received from Karen:
Uma did a great job! I would definitely recommend!


Project Name:Keyword Filtering

Client's Name: Mark Peysha

Job: To search for the relevant keywords using Adwords keyword tool and update the excel file.

Feedback that i received from Mark Peysha:
Uma has some of the best communication skills and professional standards I have seen. Period. Highly recommended.


Do you want to know more about the services that i could render and my clients' feedbacks? Then please visit my website.

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Monday, April 27, 2009

The Weekend That Was

Oh! this weekend was great.

Met two new friends who left a lot of impact on me. They were a source of inspiration to look at life differently. Both were introduced to me by couple of my old friends, who are gays. So naturally the first person whom i met is a gay and another is a trans gender.

The first person, Mr.Ram, is a research scientist, who is researching on clinical assessment of HIV affected persons. He calmly explained to me the three categories of HIV affected persons. The first category are those who are infected through the clinical treatments, second who are infected through blood transfusion and the third are those who fall under sexual transmission category.I developed great respect for him when he was talking about his work and the research.

The second person was Miss.Olga, the trans gender. Oh, she was with full of energy, after a hard day's work as a social worker in a very popular Consulting Agency. She started her career in a highly reputed Hospital as a consultant for AIDs patients, after her Post Graduation on Psychology. I felt very proud when she said that she gets lot of job satisfaction and peace when she look at those poor infected souls' face lightening up when they get little help from her and her agency.She is into this social work for the past 7years.

After a brief introduction and chitchat, we decided to have some coffee in the wayside restaurant in the Marina Beach. We were all walking on the sands towards the restaurant. I heard cat calls from all around the place. I was perturbed by those nasty comments about the appearance and the walking style of my friends.Though my companions were not disturbed, I was. Perhaps they were all used to these things in public. I do not understand the behavior of those people, who were throwing nasty comments at my friends.

Why should people look at my friends differently? How could they justify their cat calls at my friends? They don't know anything about my friends to make any comments about them. When would society learn to accept people for what they are and treat everybody alike? No one has any right to make fun of others. Let them first look at themselves and find out whether they are all making best use of whatever they have to improve the life of the fellow human beings who are in distress.

I love you, my friends and i hate you, people who fails to understand the feelings of others.


*for those who read my previous post "Fear of Aging" - Ram asked me whether am a student of any college. LOL.


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Saturday, April 25, 2009

Fear of Aging


I, suddenly realize that my skin is not looking as smooth as it used to be a year ago. I look at the surface of my skin keenly, only to see the small wrinkles appearing over it, between the tiny hairs. I look at the mirror and find that my hairs has started turning Grey. Am I aging? I feel sad for a moment and think deeply.

I was so proud of my smooth brown skin. I apply oil every day and keep them moist during the spring season. I use sunscreen lotion during every summer to save my skin from the sunlight. I heard from the elders, that applying peeled potato over the skin, will give the skin all the refreshment it need. Alas, I did that too. All went in vain. Should I have to imagine that the lotions and the natural vegetables that I use are the wrong choices? Or the nature is superior to all my efforts?

Not just my skin that indicates that am aging. The difference in my surroundings also tells the same. I notice that the kids whom I saw playing in the PS2, for the past 4 years, have started browsing the Internet. They lost interest in their favorite games of wrestling, shooting and adventure. They are more interested in looking at new things in life. And it is everybody’s guess what would their interest be. So I am aging. In other words, I am growing old.

I also realize that I don’t attract as many opposite sex as I used to. Of course the men look at me, when I look at them. They do stare at me, whenever I look at them. Does that mean that I still have the sexual appeal? Do I still look younger for my age? Do I still look good? Or do men look at every woman in the same way irrespective of the woman’s sexual appeal, skin and the appearance?

Does heart matters here? I mean, YOUNG at HEART matters here? Why am I so bothered about aging? Am I so worried that my physical appearance might shake the confidence in me? Does physical appearance matters to lead a successful life? Does it bother my close friends and family members as much as it is bothering me?

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Friday, April 24, 2009

When will the fear psychosis for the teacher end?

After reading the news in THE HINDU of a child’s death in Delhi due to corporal punishment, i am anguished and alarmed. This reminds me of my Tamil Teacher, whose name i do not want to disclose here, of Sarah Tucker Girls Higher Secondary School,Tirunelveli, way back in 1978-1979.I was a new comer of standard 6.She made sure that her student get pass mark,by beating them at the back of their fingers, right on the small and soft joints, beating them on their head and by making them kneel down at the back of the class for the whole hour until the end of that particular period.

Having studied in a Matriculation School till 5th Std, which had the option of choosing Hindi as my Second Language, i found it very hard to follow the Tamil language for the first time in my life. I was so scared of the Teacher and her beatings, that i struggled hard to get the pass mark in her subject every time. Every student of my class was very happy when the school declared that she will not teach Tamil next year, when we sat for the 7th Standard. Luckily she was not appointed as a Tamil Teacher until i finished the 8th Standard. And then came the 9th and 10th Standards, the so called High School Category. We had a very good, jovial, fun loving person as our Tamil Teacher. We looked forward to every Tamil period. We enjoyed her teaching. The way she made fun of the characters in every story in the syllabus, the way she explained the nuances of the Tamil language and the Literature, made us to score good marks,compared to other Sections, for whom the Medium of teaching was Tamil.Section A, my section, was the only English Medium class. There were many sections, from Section A to D (I guess there was till Section J, my memory is not helping me here, i beg your pardon for that).

I am narrating this incidents to convey that the teachers should be trained, motivated, educated by the Education Department as well as the School higher authorities to handle the different level of students. Nothing can revert the life of Shanno’s parents and her school mates, now that they have lost her, due to an arrogant and wild approach of a grown up person, who is known as “Teacher” in our society.

Anguised and Alarmed - Uma
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